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Complex Developmental Trauma

This morning you could barely get out of bed. Last night’s sleep eluded you.
Your mind was racing with worry. You dread the day before you.
You can’t help but obsess about making another mistake
that will cause your boss to bring you into his office for further criticism.
You can’t figure out why you keep making these stupid mistakes.
What little self-esteem and confidence you have feels like
is slipping away from you.

You feel tense and uncomfortable in your own skin.

Your emotions seem to run you.
You may struggle with headaches, digestive distress or
other chronic ailments that doctors might have suggested are psychosomatic.

You struggle with key relationships.


Trauma compromises our ability to engage with others by replacing patterns of connection with patterns of protection.
– Dr. Stephen Porges

You often feel alone and lost even when you’re with close friends and family.
You feel invisible, discounted and disconnected.
Sometimes you have overwhelming feelings of sadness
even anger that you can’t understand. You push these feelings away
but they seem to haunt you and you don’t know why.
You struggle with feeling like you need to placate loved ones
just to maintain the relationship.
You want to stand up for what you want with others
but you don’t know what or how to ask for what you want.
Sometimes you have this sinking suspicion
that this is somehow all related and you want to know why.

When your dating you give everything to your partner
but it never seems like you’re good enough. These same patterns seem to
happen in every relationship for the last few years, and yet, you’re still alone.
You long for a partner to belong to and a family of your own.
If you’ve managed to navigate the minefield that is dating and are married,
you often feel dissatisfied with your partner and wonder 
if you made the right choice.

Maybe one of your parents has struggled with
addiction or mental health problems.
As a result, as a child
you often took care of them and were the responsible one.

These problems can have a root in your past that
might be explained by what is called Developmental Complex Trauma.
The sense you have that there is something fundamentally
wrong or broken about you is NOT your fault.
It is probably rooted in a sub-optimal developmental environment
that affected how your brain and nervous system were wired.
It’s a tough set of symptoms to overcome.
It Will take time and dedication to heal. That’s the bad news.

The good news is that I have been there. I have overcome the
core sense of being unworthy, anxiety, depression, self-sabotage.
I know the way out of the mire you’re swimming in.
But now I live a life of peace and frequent inexplicable joy.
You can too.

In our sessions together, I will hold a compassionate and empathetic
space to witness your authentic true self. Working together,
you will be able to motivate strengths and resources within you
that you barely knew you had. I will empower you to
make changes in your life by
teaching you the skills you need to make positive changes
to blossom into the life you long for.
I will hold your vision of your future until
you can believe in it and live it for yourself.
I will help you reveal the radiance of your authentic self and
live a life worth celebrating.

Call me. Let’s talk about how I can help you
navigate your way from suffering to Peace and Joy

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